As a girl some of my favorite memories were going to Grandma and Grandpa’s house every Sunday to play Hide & Go Seek Base with my cousins.

My grandparents had a huge backyard with a ton of really great hiding places.

On my grandparents back porch, they had a bench which was a backseat taken from an old vehicle.

That bench was HOME BASE.

It meant safety.

In our Hide & Go Seek Base, we would use the back porch bench as the place the seeker or sometimes multiple seekers had to wait and count to allow everyone else to run and hide.

The seekers were “it.”

The only way to become “it” is to get tagged before you reached the safety of home base.

If you reached home base you were secure.

You were safe.

When it was my turn to hide, I would strategize to find the best place and time to make a run for the safety of home base as quickly as possible.

That was a game, but in my real life, I didn’t have a strategy on how to anchor myself to the safety and security I...

Resilience is the ability to bounce back.

Relational Resilience is the ability to bounce back confidently no matter what you face in your relationships.

Many of my relationships connected to the trauma I experienced as a girl, became a source of uncertainty, anxiety, and pain for me.

Years ago, many times after interacting in those relationship, I would leave crying and not be able to function for about the next three days.

I didn't have the tools, skills or practices to help me confidently bounce back and even better prevent this kind of suffering. 

I now have skills that I practice on a regular basis that have bought so much peace, confidence, and joy in my life that I was previously not experiencing.

Today, I am now able to have those same relationship minus the suffering and when I face difficult things within them, I have the skills and practices I rely on to bounce back confidently.

I'm able to move forward in certainty in those relationships.

I lovingly do...

Relationships are both amazing and messy. 

Adding trauma to the equation can make it even more messy, more difficult, and more painful than we imagined it would be. 

Focusing on what’s within your control is the key to creating healthy, resilient relationships. 

It will help you bounce back as the creator, the hero, not the victim of your life. 

If not, we become blinded to our agency and the power within us to create what we want.

You are the ONE needed to pave the way, develop necessary skills, and make the changes you want to see in your relationships. 

Waiting for someone else to change will only leave you feeling powerless and helpless sitting back not making the essential changes within yourself. 

I will help you disrupt your side of unhealthy patterns in your relationship and replace unhealthy coping skills like people pleasing and codependency with new healthy skills like setting boundaries and creating emotional resiliency.

Sometimes...