Triggered Like a Scared Animal

#boundaries #confidence #connection #creatingsafety #difficultrelationships #empowered #healingrelationships #healthyrelationships #relationalskills #relationshipcoach #selfcare #trauma Jun 05, 2024

We all want healthy, connective relationships.

Sometimes, what stands in our way is FEAR.

AND as a result we become very much like a scared animal,

Seeing threats in our relationships.

Not feeling safe,

With quills at the ready,

Or going into our shell for protection,

Or insecurity driving us to continuously ask for reassurance,

Or hiding out hoping conflict will solve itself.

What does any scared animal need?

What do YOU need when you feel like a scared animal in your relationships?

Have you ever been around an animal that had been traumatized?

My mother-in-law fosters and rehabilitates dogs and then re-homes them.

Through her, they get to experience what it’s like to feel safe again in a relationship with a person..

She works to create trust and LOVES, LOVES, LOVES on these dogs.

It takes time, patience, and consistency.

We need the same things.

We need to do things to increase our safety,

Love ourselves hard,

And to be the one person we can trust most in our relationships.

This has been my journey.

I have spent years increasing awareness, connection to myself and my needs, taking care of what I need to build safety within relationships.

As soon as I become aware of a need I have, I jump into action.

I have become the expert on what I need to do to increase safety,

To calm and reassure that scared animal within myself.

It’s okay that I can’t control the people in my life to get them to do what I want or what I need at times.

I really don’t need that.

I need to know that no matter what I have my back.

I am my own safe harbor,

Knowing what steps to take to increase safety is the key.

This week, think about what triggers that scared animal within,

AND ask yourself what you need most to increase your feeling of safety.

Let’s help you become an expert on safety and calming your scared animal within.

Becoming your own safe harbor will be a game changer for you.

When you feel safe, you can more fully show up in your relationships aligned with your integrity and what matters to you.

You will be able to shift from protection to connection and make the changes you want to see.