You may find some people difficult to love,

Difficult to deal with,

Difficult to converse with,

And even difficult to think about.

One thing I’ve gotten really good at is loving everyone in my story,

And loving everyone in yours.

ALL of the people in our lives are 100% lovable.

Our ability to love them is our LOVE-ABILITY.

No matter where you are in your ability to love others, you are 100% lovable.

You are right where you need to be to expand your love-ability.

When we find someone we think is difficult to love, it’s an opportunity to stretch ourselves.

To stretch into who I truly am,

A person feeling and driving LOVE.

When this happens, I work to gain awareness of where I am.

I get curious about what’s going on for me and what I need.

I process my emotions. 

I practice love with me, first.

Loving others more fully starts with loving ourselves more fully.

Sacrificing ourselves to more fully love others is the opposite of love.

Once I know what is going on...

Last week my clients and I talked a lot about why my clients were experiencing being on an emotional rollercoaster.

I helped them see that this rollercoaster of emotions is tied to the manuals they have for their relationships and the people in them.

We have these unwritten rules that we’ve decided on in our minds of how the people in our lives should behave for us to feel better and be happy. 

We give the behavior of others so much leverage over our emotions.

It’s like handing them over the remote control of our emotional experience. 

And in so many cases we hand it over to those we’d least like to have that power over us.

Here’s the thing though. 

We can’t really hand over a remote control.

We are the only ones that can engineer our emotions.

We just blame it on others because of our operating manual of rules we expect others to follow.

We believe these things are just common sense and that everyone truly knows how to be a good mom,...