Loving Difficult People

You may find some people difficult to love,

Difficult to deal with,

Difficult to converse with,

And even difficult to think about.

One thing I’ve gotten really good at is loving everyone in my story,

And loving everyone in yours.

ALL of the people in our lives are 100% lovable.

Our ability to love them is our LOVE-ABILITY.

No matter where you are in your ability to love others, you are 100% lovable.

You are right where you need to be to expand your love-ability.

When we find someone we think is difficult to love, it’s an opportunity to stretch ourselves.

To stretch into who I truly am,

A person feeling and driving LOVE.

When this happens, I work to gain awareness of where I am.

I get curious about what’s going on for me and what I need.

I process my emotions. 

I practice love with me, first.

Loving others more fully starts with loving ourselves more fully.

Sacrificing ourselves to more fully love others is the opposite of love.

Once I know what is going on with me, I take care of my needs.

I get myself off the emotional rollercoaster. 

I focus on what I can control.

I give others permission to be where they are messy and amazing.

I get curious about what’s going on for the person I find difficult to love.

I separate the person from their behavior.

I stretch myself to see them with a loving lens.  

I find all the ways and reasons this person is lovable.

I get curious about their behavior. 

I may decide to feel clean pain around someone's behavior that aligns with my core values and what I choose to believe about certain behavior.

That doesn’t keep me from loving the person.

I empathize with them, 

Because in so many ways, ME TOO.

I’m mean to people sometimes.

I’m selfish sometimes.

I yell sometimes.

I don’t excuse the behavior and in many cases, I choose to NOT participate in a particular behavior.

I just don’t need them to be different, because I know how to take care of ME and I am learning to LOVE them no matter what.

I balance taking care of myself, loving myself, trusting myself, and expanding feeling love for ALL of the human beings in my story.

And sometimes, I love the people in my story from afar.

Expanding your love-ability is your gift to YOU!

Love feels so much better than frustration, annoyance, dislike, disdain, or even hate.

Grow your lovability this Valentine’s Day!

Let me help you grow your LOVABILTY.

It takes developing and practicing coaching skills.

You deserve to feel more love in your life!